Yesterday, my oldest son had a band concert at which he needed to wear a white, button down shirt and black pants. Since he’s outgrown all of his white dress shirts, I stopped by Target to buy him a new one. My boys were both at school and hubby was at work, so it was just Sophie, my one year old, and I. Sophie commonly attracts a lot of attention because, well, she’s gorgeous, and also very friendly. In light of this fact, I wasn’t surprised when a 40ish man and two older people (who I assume were his parents) stopped me to talk to Sophie. I was friendly, as always, and went on my way. I ran into this group a few more times in the store, and ended up behind them in the check out line.
The man proceeded to blatantly come on to me, right there, at Target. In fact, as my mother says, it was “right there in front of god and everybody.” It was flattering at first, but when I let him know politely that I wasn’t interested, and that I am MARRIED, he continued.
After my initial irritation and frustration, it occurred to me that maybe this man could use some serious dating advice, so while this is a bit off topic for my blog, I hope you’ll indulge me a bit. I thought I’d post it here in hopes that he (or even someone like him) will read it. So, without further ado, here’s my advice for men who hit on women in stores, all based on actual events or factors involved in my experience yesterday.
1. If a woman wears a ring on her left hand ring finger, she’s trying to tell you something. Either she’s married, or she’s not interested. Additionally, if the woman politely mentions that she’s married, or even tells you directly that she’s not interested when you continue to pursue her, give it up. There are plenty of unmarried women in the world who might be interested. In order to have a chance of catching one, try the following tips.
2. Telling a woman that you are twice divorced and have nine children will not increase her interest in you, no matter how many kids she has.
3. Trying to imply that a woman’s child thinks you’re her father is not an effective way to make the woman like you. In fact, it’s a little creepy.
4. Consider showering and washing your clothes more often. Women don’t find dirty and smelly especially appealing. Deodorant is also a good thing.
5. While you’re at it, comb your hair and groom yourself.
I think that’s all I’ve got to say about that. So readers, thank you for allowing me to indulge in this slightly off topic subject. And to Mr. Hit-on-a-married-woman-at-Target, I hope that the advice offered here is taken to heart. I wish you well in your future dating endeavors.
December 9, 2008 at 7:14 pm
In front of his Parents?!?! And nine kids?!?! LOL Silly guy, has no clue. Funny post. Laughter is so healthy!! I’m still laughing about it!! Thanks for smiles.
Many Blessings….
Roxanne ~ Believe Achieve
December 7, 2008 at 6:59 pm
wow!
I clicked on your link from your comments on my blog and look at my surprise! You are a clever writer…and it seems you have a fun life (with the exception of your Target boyfriend!) hehehe
I’ll be sure to follow your blog too!
December 6, 2008 at 10:18 am
It was certainly an off topic post for your blog, however I found it very good and kind of related myself to it, such incidents happen to me almost daily, I think this is not good on male part and Vice-versa.
December 5, 2008 at 10:23 pm
Creepy!
December 5, 2008 at 5:13 pm
Oooh dear that didn’t sound like the nicest shopping trip! Some people just have no idea about life!
December 5, 2008 at 10:11 am
Youre better than me I would have decked him. And you wished him well? I’d wish him a jail cell! (But then I am pmsing today)
December 4, 2008 at 8:34 pm
Dear Man that Hit on Angie Yesterday,
YOU ARE A LOSER AND A CREEP. GET A LIFE.
Sincerely,
ME
December 4, 2008 at 5:21 pm
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Maricel
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December 4, 2008 at 4:13 pm
@Eve I know, right?? LOL!
@Debbie I look forward to it! Loved your blog too.
@Alyssa NP, loved reading it.
@Michelle I think some men DO notice…or at least they’ll back off if you ask them to…but wow lol…some people!!
@MilesPerHour I could imagine what a decent man like yourself would say to a guy like that. Maybe it would help him get a clue? LOL.
@Anonymous I think you’ve hit the nail on the head. MOST guys would look for a ring–that’s why I thought this one needed the heads up. LOL. And yes, right in front of his parents…
December 4, 2008 at 2:00 pm
From a guys point of view – I see the ring and I move on. I think most of us actually look for that ring. So if you are single girls, word of the wise don’t wear a ring on your left hand, just throws us off ;-).
BTW I can’t beleive he did that in front of his parents.
December 4, 2008 at 1:17 pm
I won’t use the words here I would actually have come out of my mouth about guys like these. I have very little patience with them.
December 4, 2008 at 1:16 pm
Great story and such a funny post. Sometimes guys just don’t get it. I’ve had similar experiences and it just plain creeps me out. I’m married and always wear my ring. For some reason men don’t notice the ring or just don’t care. Thanks for sharing and making me smile today.
December 4, 2008 at 12:59 pm
lol yeah there are ALOT of men out there that should read this. It is very true. Thank you for the wonderful comment earlyier also. Have a good day.
December 4, 2008 at 12:33 pm
They really ought to get a clue; you’re so right! BTW, thanks for stopping by Heart Choices. I’ll be visiting you again. :)
December 4, 2008 at 12:05 pm
Hahaha, I think it’s kind of funny too. You are too nice and too hot, Girl! I think men like that know they are bugging us, it is some kind of game to them. I don’t know. But who wants to flirt with their baby on their hip? Really not our style.
Eve
December 4, 2008 at 12:04 pm
@Elaine–LOL! I’m usually flattered when these things happen, but this guy was something else! Haha!
December 4, 2008 at 11:52 am
That’s rather hilarious! Why is it always the creeps that hit on married women? I mean once in a while a nice looking young man might be nice… don’t you think? As long as it stops.